Dating how to say no
I feel kind of awkward saying anything, so I'm just gonna get it out there: I don't have those feelings for you.
And while you love him, that love is 100 percent platonic. Actually, the opposite approach would have been more likely to get him another date with me.. However, given that I wasn't certain, this wasn't really a mistake. ) in giving people a chance and taking time to get to know them. It has happened to me if I don't give a phone number to a stranger in a club or bar or if I say no to a drunken guy at a party. Even if my no comes in the form of "I don't think so" or "It's not a good idea" or even "I have a boyfriend." If you say no to a stranger, the worst case is that he'll get angry.I was being internally consistent, but SL was playing a different game. He played the "take all contact as a sign of interest" and "if I keep asking, she'll say yes" games. A middle case is that he'll attempt to engage you in a long conversation about why you're turning him down. (Aside: you will be delighted to hear that I haven't heard from SL again. Part of the problem was that I didn't actually say "no" or "I don't want to see you" to him. Rather, I want to discuss how to tell someone that you'd rather not go on a second or third date. What a relief.) The situation with SL (the guy I had a date or so with recently), was a classic case of a guy not taking no for an answer.